Living With Bipolar Disorder | Quick Guide | Intervenenow
Living With Bipolar Disorder
If you’re living with bipolar disorder and you want to be happy in life you must learn to forgive yourself, because not everything you do is in your control.
You may get depressed and isolate yourself from everyone, or not be motivated to do anything productive, or not have the self-confidence to do the things you want to do. You need to realize that this is what people with bipolar disorder do sometimes and it isn’t always your fault.
You may get angry and lash out at someone, or blame others for your problems, or burn some of your bridges. It’s not your fault that you have chemical balance in your brain that makes you more vulnerable to anger and self-destructive behavior. Do what you can to minimize the damage, but don’t hate yourself for not being perfect.
You may get into a manic or hypomanic state of euphoria and desperately reach out to other people, or feel like your too good for some people, or get shit-faced drunk and make an ass out of yourself. You need to forgive yourself, apologize if you’ve hurt someone, learn from your mistakes, and then move on.
I have destroyed some personal relationships and damaged others. I have spent a lot of time hating myself and feeling ashamed because of this, but I refuse to blame myself anymore. I’ve stopped drinking, I’ve stopped gambling, I’ve done everything I could to be a better person, but this disorder often causes me to screw up in some way. That is just the way it is.
Forgiving yourself doesn’t imply that you should do whatever you want without regard for others just because you’re sick. It means that you should do what is in your power, but not blame yourself for things that aren’t.
People aren’t always going to be understanding, but it helps if they know that you’re sick. You should tell people close to you that you have bipolar disorder so that when you screw up they know it isn’t your fault. All my friends and family know I have the disorder and I’ve noticed that they treat me with a lot more kindness now, which is really helpful.