Coping with the Effects of Psychological and Moral Abuse
Coping with the Effects of Psychological and Moral Abuse.
Healing from the stress of abuse, especially stress that may have occurred continuously over a long period, can be a difficult and lengthy process. Techniques that enhance emotional intelligence may also be helpful during the recovery process, and maintaining good physical health by sleeping well, eating well, and exercising can help a person feel more able to face the often challenging process of recovery and be better able to cope with any mental or physical health issues that may have developed as a result of the abuse. Dealing with emotional abuse is something that many men and women face in relationships. Whether it is a marriage, friendship or even a work relationship, learning how to cope with emotional abuse can become a reality.
The first step in dealing with psychological violence is learning to spot the signs. If you are not aware of the emotional abuse, you cannot make it stop. The first sign of psychological abuse may be just something in the pit of the stomach, a vague feeling that something is “wrong.” It is only by further assessing these feelings and the relationship that emotional abuse can be seen and stopped.
Utilize these techniques when dealing with psychological abuse
Understand the abuser – although it may appear counterintuitive to have sympathy for the abuser, changing the way you see the abuser can provide you with clues into managing the abuse. Often abusers are insecure, nervous or depressed, keeping that in mind may assist you to keep the abuse in its appropriate context – the abuse is not about you, it is about them.
- Resist the abuser – just like the playground bully, emotional abusers do not want to be confronted and may back down when you confront their abusive strategies
- Find positive ways to talk with the abuser – if you are able to handle the abuse neutrally, you might be able to see the good in the abuser and discover a different way to communicate with him or her that is positive. This is often seen in office environments.
- Switch the subject or use humor to distract from the situation.
Never support acts of emotional abuse of others.